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I was SA by a counselor and it started with him telling me WAY TOO MANY DETAILS about his life. It was like we were providing counseling for each other. Not good!

So, when I started therapy, I made it REALLY CLEAR that I didn't want this T to tell me the details of his life. Like, NOTHING AT ALL. He respected that boundary, and would even remind me of it if I asked him a question about his life.

After 16 months, T does share a lot more of his life with me, and now it feels comfortable and good. Nothing at all about his wife or anything like that, things like "I love to be on the water" or "I used to box in college" - always things that are pertinent to what we are talking about. I ask him to tell me stories now to get me grounded in reality, and I want something really mundane...so he'll tell me "right before you came, I was sending an e-mail to the people leading my training because they raised the price on me" or things like that. NOW it feels good, and grounding. Earlier in therapy, I definitely would have freaked out.

This is probably a really good topic to discuss with your T, if you decide to keep going. Ruptures have lead to my biggest leaps growth-wise in therapy.