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When confronting parents about childhood wounds that still haunt us today is a very difficult thing. I waited 20 years. It takes every ounce of courage we can muster up to even get to the point where we can confront our parents. I was expecting the worst reaction from my mother and that isn't what I got at all from her.
I am sorry you had a bad experience confronting your father. I think not having closure really hinders the healing process. When someone can not admit their wrong for hurting another person, particularly their child, really adds to the pain and frustration for the person on the receiving end. Take care Myzen. Thanks again for asking this question. I think it was very important.