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Originally Posted by MissCharlotte
Coconut,
T gets frustrated and sad for you because he is feeling along with you. I think you should tell T how frightened and alienated his statements makes you feel. It could be because this is a new experience for you...someone feeling along with you. I know it has been new for me and I can't tell you how many times--when T expressed feelings with me--I interpreted it as a negative experience. It felt so intense and I immediately pushed back because it seemed intrusive and I felt that somehow I was doing something wrong.Now I am learning that this is how we can begin to feel validated and integrated. I didn't know that because I didn't have this experience as a child. I just keep telling T to slow down when I need to.
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Hope this helps somehow.
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MC...thank you for your replies. I have an appointment tomorrow. I really don't want to go but I'll try to. I just don't know what to tell T. I'm very discouraged, depressed, I have been seeing him since 2007, that's a long time and to hear that I cannot connect. I know it's true, that's what it hurts so bad. Maybe I just can't do therapy Maybe I'm not capable of the level of intimacy required.
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The patient's job is to repeat in the therapy all the stuff that has been disastrous before. The T's job is to not let it happen, but to point out how it is happening.
