Coconut,
There is no time frame to trusting. My T has been very good about stating that to me, we all do it in our own time.
I really think your T probably meant it in a whole different context. Wanting that for you and wishing he could say the right words something but I imagine it wasnt to push you.
Please tell us how it goes. Maybe you can write him a letter to read with your thoughts on his comment if you have no strength to come out and say it.
Sending you

Hangingon