Chaotic13 wrote >>> I'm the one who knows what thoughts or topics I tend to avoid. If I really want her help I need to have the guts to say, "I remember this, and it really bothers me."

that's a problem with me, I don't have the guts to say that; I just avoid. And if it comes up somehow I put the fence back up, put the barbed wire on top, and paint a new sign, KEEP OUT. I am NOT looking forward to tomorrow's appointment.