Mama51 I am just like you and thought that I was the only one that was a 100% giver and people pleaser. I am trying to look out for me and say no, but it is a slow journey. I found that a little practice stating my opinion has gotten me to the 99% mark. I used to live life just to please others, but found that I am walked on instead of being appreciated. A therapists only answer to me was "you HAVE to teach people how to treat you". loriatwitsend