Wi_fighter,

I have never been in your shoes. My heart goes out to you. I was a child of divorce, however. My dad did the best he could for us. He came to see us when he could, if he couldnt make it he atleast called. It was my stepdad that pushed us, and my mom didn't do anything.

I know that I am younger and less experienced than some, but I have kids also. I can tell that you are hurting sooo bad. I don't feel that in any way you are using your kids as a pawn. If you 14 year old daughter is telling you that he is making her something she isn't, then you have every right to fight for those kids. Not just the kids, for yourself! I have a feeling that he does these things to make you cower down to him. He gets pleasure in seeing you torn up and frazzled. HE is sick!!!!!! This is my own opinon and of course my own thoughts. I have been reading your posts and the whole time I am thinking I wish I could come take you by the hand and just walk up to him and let him have what is coming to him. lol!!! He needs to realize that he is the one that is hurting his kids. Why can't he see that!!!!! What a jerk!

SOrry if this offended you I didn't mean it ugly