Hey Digdug,
What you said is perfect. I get the mick took out of me all the time and my best friend and her other friend keep telling me all the time people use me and to learn to put myself first. I never do though but i am learning the hard way. I get used all the time from work and my volunteering work and also my own family. My family especially when i buy things for them etc they know i will buy them what they want or close to that. I will spend a fortune on each of them for their birthday's, christmas's etc and its unreal how much i spend. I do not ask for anything in return. I don't tend to want anything gift wise and i know you don't give to receive. My mate was going mental as for christmas i bought her present after we decided not to. I just wanted to show her how much i appreciated her. It was fairly cheap not ott as she got other things and we did do a BIG Christmas Dinner with her Boyfriend and also with our work too. But i think that she appreciated it as she was needing cheered up.
But yes i totally understand what you are saying and i will need to try that thing what's it called oh ye PUTTING MYSELF FIRST
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Originally Posted by digdug
I think people with OCD on balance tend to become a lot more emotionally invested in other people's lives than other people. I can't say why, exactly, though it makes sense when you consider how sensitive we are to the world around us.
You have to be careful with this sort of thing, though. People can take advantage of you, whether it is intentional or not. Emotionally needy people can be pretty cruel and you have to keep your guard up so you don't get hurt. Also, if someone does take advantage of you, remember that it's not your fault and put this person out of your mind, pronto.
On the other hand, I think caring about other people is generally a good thing, and you can really be a good friend to the right person. The only thing to remember is to put yourself first.
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