ok are you really one of my sisters in disguise? one of smy sisters has been in an unhappy relationship for over 20 years - when she finally left for good (I hope) he started being nice and caring - but soon reverted to his old self - she was alway wanting him to leave - he never did - in the end she left - she is still saying things like she does not love him - would never want to have sex with him - couldnt live with him - but when he rings up and cries she feels sorry for him and goes to see him - then she gets upset that she has done that - I tell her 20 years of conditioning cant be gotten over with in a few months

Time apart sometimes helps clarify things - my sister was told to make a list of all the reasons that she left her husband and look at them when she thought there was hope for the relationship - and see if they had changed. Maybe you could try that?

with the group therapy - they will know you are new - you arnt expected to know everything all at once - although it feels that way - if it is helping you please keep going - you deserve to feel better - take care P7