I am in a similar situation. I have been involved in an internet group for over 5yrs, even met some face too face...but its like they all want one thing and I another, and I refuse to just let them be who and how they want to be and I think create situations of conflict...if I were religious I'd pray for the strenght to just walk away, but something keeps me doing this, I think its something to do with trauma repetition, I always felt disrepected for who I was in my family of origin and felt I was fighting to survive...and perhaps its a way off trying to repeat and repair and gain control over something that no longer exists in my life accept where I create it??? I mean who really cares what I think compared to what any indivdiual can think for themselves? ...I so need to walk away and stop waiting for the perfect resolution, this group of people are who they are, want to believe in what they believe and I need to find another of my own life to let it go...perhaps you feel thsi way also??