Wow I have been asking myself this question for a long time. My father was emotionally and verbally abusive and he still is. I so want to forgive and move on and not let his abusive words take me down. I struggle with walking away or learning to forgive and move on knowing that I am okay and his words are him not me. It is so hard. I think that I put his behavior behingd me and I can handle being around him and then pow! he hits me with some very hurtful words. There I am again fighting to push those thoughts of no self worth out of my head. Intellictually I know it is him and not me. I can face him with my head up and not take the abuse, but emotionally I crumble and that feeling of hurt and anger take over. I worry about what he will do/think if I walk away. Why do I worry? beats me! My siblings tell me to walk away, they act like there is nothing wrong and one sibling get even worse verbal abuse than I do. I want to love him and have him in my life, but I think part of that is I think that would be the right thing to do. I don't think I can forgive any more. It is too difficult waiting for the next hit. Love to hear how others have coped with this. Godd question How do you forgive?