Jerry Seinfeld's wife, Jessica, wrote a cookbook called "Deceptively Delicious" that gives parents all sorts of ways to get their kids to eat healthy without knowing it. There is also a second book out titled "The Sneaky Chef", by Missy Chase Lapine, which is very similar to Mrs. Seinfeld's book (apparently there was some speculation that Jessica had "ripped off" Lapine's ideas - but that is hardly the point). I haven't read either book, but thought of them while reading this thread. Perhaps they could give you some ideas on how to deal with your daughter's eating habits. Good Luck. And by the way, tell your neighbor to mind her own business!