Being able to feel what others feel, to be empathetic, means to me a valuable gift.

To me, compassion means sharing all feelings, the bad ones as well as the good ones. Being connected this way has done me well many times. Contrary, being or getting disconnected regularly harmed or hurt me.

If I change from my view to those of others, I can often see what would make them uncomfortable or suffer. Avoiding disturbing others is what then follows naturally. So sometimes I prefer to be silent instead of talkative, or to politely withdraw from debate instead of insisting, and so on.

The good thing is: We are all able to feel those positive things as compassion, trust, love, friendship, cooperation, patience, and understanding. We only have to decide to make use of these talents, again and again.

This is also good practice for a good contact to oneself. I realized many positive effects in handling myself with compassion, trust, love, friendship, patience and understanding. The most important benefit of it was that I could develop resilience. An understanding friendly care for myself included not to let in every hit from outside. I found out that only those things could make me suffer that I had let in before. Now the number of those things is going down, and this feels really good.

Kind greetings,
bluenarciss