i kinda need a bit of advice an i probably sound stupid but when an abuser as abused you i mean like physical abuse do they say that the victim provoked them to do it or like they had to do it for some reason taht will be the vicitims fault.i just wanted to know as the person who is hurting me blames me for what they do to me saying it's all my fault and they had to do it to keep me quiet sorry if this sounds odd but my head is all mashed up please someone help me?