Hi Broken. Yes, they do put the blame on the victim. I wasn't physically abused, but my ex has hit my daughter and when I confronted him with it he laughed and said she deserved it. She was mad at her brother and was slamming her bedroom door, so he hit her on the back with a belt. He's also told her not to tell anyone that he's hit her, or he'll go to jail.

You don't deserve to be hit. I hope you can get the courage to seek help through an abuse shelter.