xtree, you got some good replys here. I think most off us in therapy have this fear also. You know when I read someone else with the same questions and feelings I Have, I feel suddenly I Have the answers for them, but when it comes to me and my feelings than what I could say here don't feel so reasuring. But, I guess logically as long as a therapist isnt sitting detesting the fact that you or I or whom ever is their client, then its not one sided because they are there with us, offering part of themselves to us, even if thats just their professional training..I think for me the fear of the relationship being one-sided and all other fears is more about the past than me and T, if we'd never been let down in our formative yrs than I think we'd handle relationships more confidently...its the fact we have been badly let down in the past that is the real issue I feel.