First take 50% responsibility for the dead marriage. Then take 100% responsibility for turning it around. Men are pretty simple. They need a few things in life and those things can always be put back into play. But you need to do it.

First take a big step back in time and remember the 5 things that were attractive to you. Once you have that memory write it down. Then remember the 5 things that he was attracted to and write those down. Next compare your current life to that list. If they do not match (and they won't) then you both failed to carry out the original deal. Most marriages have these issues and they can be fixed. It won't happen overnight and it wont happen in a week but it might take a long time with 3 steps forward and 2 steps back each time.

Next -- make yourself a list of your Needs, Want's and Expectations -- these are things you need to make you whole. Then start to live those as if they are happening .... he will pick up on the vibes.

Next -- think like a girlfriend not a wife. I have long discussed this with a counselor friend that we need to write a handbook for "How To Be Your Husband's Girlfriend" Your son is his buddy and they talk sports and things and the boy looks up to him and he connects with that. He may no longer feel that you look up to him and as such HE may no longer feel attractive.

Most men need: Admiration, Affection, Conversation, Companionship, and Sexual Fulfillment. And, they need all of it all the time. They can compartmentalize areas that do not get fulfilled and can block the need, or they fill the need with something or someone else. If sex cant be fulfilled it might be replaced with pizza and beer. If conversation is lacking it can be replaced with MSNBC or CNN, if he's not admired by you then it can be replaced with coaching a team etc.

I can't get my wife to watch a movie for anything .... so since I happen to like Chic Flics I put one on and she eventually will come and watch for a while. ...... You get the idea.

If you want sex make it happen, take bubble batch before bedtime, smell nice, make the bed, climb in and read a book...... do that 5 nites in a row ,, he will get the message .... then when he showers before bed and then comes in take the lead. Be a girlfriend not wife who has not had any in a while looking for some.

If you want conversation become an expert in what they are talking about. Wow them with something they don't expect.

You have to take a Prince who turned into a frog and turn him back into feeling like a Prince again.

You have the tools. (if you don't then go get them)

Cheers
JDS