((daynnight))) I truly know how hard it is. ((big hug to you)))
By any chance could the worker next time take your daughter out.
That way she is first helping you and you do not have to worry about your daughter/
while that is going on.
I know that just alittle change can upset your son as mine was upset at that age.
Did something happen to trigger this?
Can you make a safe place for him in your home for when he is upset. Where he can go and be by himself. Safe of course. I know when they have reached the point of anger . Its almost to late you have to wait for it to pass or as you said devert their attention.
With my son at that age I had made a safe place for him. He could if he needed yell..cry if he needed too. It is so very hard on him. most hard on your daughter as it was on mine.
So hard on the parents as no one knows but you how seeing his pain effects the whole family.
The sad part is your son loves you and I am sure his sister, He just hurting inside.
and that is how it comes out when he is fustrated.
Please know i care and you are a good Mom. Tell your daughter she is a good sister.
Tell your son there is Hope.