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Originally Posted by Xtree
Do you have a dependency on the therapeutic process?
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That could mean so many things. Dependent on the process of therapy or the therapist? What does it mean to be dependent? It could mean so many things.
Does it mean that you like your therapist so much (you are so connected) that you'll be very, very sad if your relationship ends? If so, I am dependent.
Does it mean you would just as soon never terminate and see your T for the rest of your life? If so, I am dependent.
Does it mean that you can't make any of your own decisions without talking with T first? If so, I am not dependent.
Does it mean you "save up" your feelings until therapy, when you can share and process them with your therapist, rather than feeling and dealing with them as they occur? If so, yeah, I have been known to do that. But I'm getting better... (less dependent?)
Does it mean that if your therapist says something, it must be so, and don't question and think for yourself? If so, I am not dependent.
Does it mean that you when you describe your relationship with your T, you say things like "one-sided" and "power differential"? If so, then I am not dependent.
Does it mean your therapist has been so helpful and warm and caring and healing and you like him so much that you're scared s**tless that it will all end one day and you will no longer have his presence in your life, and it will be so so painful not to have him anymore? If so, then you're human.
It's OK to be human.