Hello, I understand somethings about anger; my main issues with bpd is controling my anger when it arises. I've been told to do deep breathing, and also try to defuse it by waliking away from the present situation, and find something else to do besides harming myself. I have a tendency to internalize my anger upon myself. I know others with bpd strike out at others. I have also been put onedication to decrease my anger impulses; have you been told about medications? Lastly, when at home and I get angry I try to rip up old phone books, journal, or pound a pillow. Maybe these can assist you? Hope so (: JG+