What you are dealing with is common to all people trying to have their parents see them as an adult. Your depression makes this process that much more difficult. Your basic need now is to set boundaries with your parents. Tell them directly that you love them and you appreciate them but you do not need them arranging your life. This is very difficult to do and you will need to do this over and over again ( I have been doing it for 30 years now) but is worth the trouble for they will begin to back off.

Good Luck