I am new to this forum and staying up late worrying about my husband losing his job. He was laid off two years ago and got hired in a new city last year. We were thrilled to get another chance to rebuild our retirement accounts. Then, only weeks after we moved, he lost the new job. We had to borrow money from his brother just to move back to our old house which we had just put back on the market. At our ages, here we are trying to recover again.
My career was put on hold several years ago because my youngest (now in college) suffered a major depressive episode and had to leave high school. I home schooled her for two years and was so excited when she got into college. Now she has had to leave college after two quarters. We are enrolling her in a local community college. I must go back to work but I seem to be unable to face job stress any more. I can't seem to go fast enough to please my employer. The week before my husband lost his job, he spent a week in the hospital due to a blood clot.
I read the message from Ice Statue
who really sounds like a wonderful person, full of courage and ideas. I realize that what I lack is a sense of control over my life. I know that we all live with a false sense of safety most of the time but it is terribly disorienting to get beat up the way we have been beat up for the last two years. I put up a pretty good front around my husband and kids but mostly I feel like I've been run over and kicked to the curb. .I get up at night and worry...
I am very fortunate to have a family and a house. We have a little retirement income and will be able to keep the house. So.
I know we are luckier than so many. We had just planned on so much more than getting by
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Originally Posted by IceStatue
Hi, JP1957:
Thank you for responding and for adding your story.
Since I first posted this, I thankfully, have secured a part time permanent position. It can be done. However, it does not minimize the emotional roller coaster I was on, it only makes it more bearable. So much of what I think and feel about myself is part of what I do for a living. This new position is geared more toward the career field I was seeking to work in. So, in some ways I am glad the layoff came at the other job. It was a crisis but good came out of it, in a way. I will still need to work elsewhere to make enough to live on but I have been working toward that for some time too, so, hopfully will have that piece in place in the not too distant future.
Arrogant bully, I like that term to describe exactly who they were. Mean, nasty and hateful, are good words to describe those two. Well done! I have had a few like this too but my last employer was really nice, it was the economy that did me in.
You are, however, are a person who wants to do a good job and to take a good person out of this world only to be left with those two would make me quite sad  .
I also went to a conference last week for career practioners and got some really cool materials on doing work assessments which I can post if you like. There are many but this one looked very interesting to me and it is free! Something we all need at this time of the economy. I can see if I can walk you through it if you like. Might help others too.
Do take care.
Ice |