Well, Mrs. Cruz, I'll give you the short version!
Officially, I came out when I was 23 years old. Up until that time I had gone to great lengths to be what I "thought" I was "supposed" to be. Meaning, of course, heterosexual. I had married my high school sweetheart, had a daughter, going to college, etc.
As I look back on things, I can tell you that I've always been more attracted to girls even as a little girl. I knew better than to act on it even as young as 5 years old. I picked up on how "that" was frowned upon even that young.
So, what happened? Several difficult things happened that shook me to my very core. The death of my father and daughter and the infidelity of my husband. My insides screamed. Part of the gnawing was I had to be who I really was. I consciously made different choices and for the first time in my life honored who I am. (it's much more complicated, but I've hit the highlights for you)
I've heard many a gay man and many a lesbian tell the stories of how they knew. Most everyone "knows" before they get out of elementary or middle school! Sometimes, it takes a while to stop denying it, like me. Denial is powerful.
I agree with what Rhapsody said in regards to your dream:
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I think you will be fine and that your dream is not sexual in nature, but rather
it is telling you that you miss your old female friend (or need a new female
friend), hence the kiss which represent intimacy on an emotional level.
And like I said, this is the short story. I appreciate you for asking and I thank you for giving me the opportunity to share it with you. Yep, you will be just fine!