as also being a survivor of both sexual and emotional abuse from a previous boyfriend I know that i wasn't okay until I started going to therapy. I had to talk it out until I was blue in the face. But after a while I started to learn that not every man was going to do the same things to me and it's been almost 4 years but I still have some triggers but theyve gotten less and less. I would suggest going to a counselor also. Even though you may empathize and listen, she needs someone who can guide her through the talking so it's not just going in a circle. It really says a lot that youre on here looking for ways to help her though. Just realize that it's not you, and I'm sure she feels really bad about making you suffer for something someone else did to her. Just try and be patient.