My boyfriend is kind, loving, smart, funny, handsome, patient, understanding... and a SLOB from HELL.

I posted in Healthy Parenting about his 19-year-old son, who is a disrespectful nightmare of a young man... and who makes his father look like a neatnik.

I need some advice on how to deal with his habits that do not involve cleaning up after him, which I refuse to do - he is an adult, and I am not his mother, I'm his girlfriend.

I don't see moving out as an option. Some people suggested that in my thread about his son's issues. We are a very serious couple, very much in love, and I really do not want to move out over this.

I know there are plenty of people who are very neat and have a partner who is very not. How do you deal?? Do you ignore it? Nag every day? Cry alone in the bathroom?

Help, please.