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Originally Posted by Pomegranate
I've never had to deal with as bad of a problem as you describe. But, as I like things relatively neat and tidy, I tend to clean up and do what I have to do to make me happy and feel comfortable in my living space. If there is something that does not directly affect you, some chore, some area of the house, etc. I would leave that alone until the slob takes care of it - and let him know you have no intention of helping with that, no matter how bad it gets. Like not washing his clothes. If you can do that.  This is a tough problem, good luck! I hope someone here has some better ideas for you. |
Thanks, Pomegranate
I used to clean up after everyone, because the mess really pissed me off. Then I started to feel like I was being taken advantage of. I talked to my boyfriend about it and told him I was not a maid and I was NOT going to pick up after him or his sons anymore. He agreed and told me he never expected me to clean up after anyone but myself. I was doing it not only because I hate messes, but because I was unemployed and had to make myself feel useful. Now I have a full-time job. My boyfriend works from home most of the time, and I know he doesn't spend 8 straight hours on his computer and on teleconferences. He has plenty of time to straighten up - he just spends that time playing video games and messing with his iTunes library. He lets a mess get so bad that when he finally decides to clean he spends like four hours doing it.