Hi Onzich and welcome to PC....

Its funny about labels and definitions especially about souls as dynamic as people,,,they seem to follow the old adage,,"beauty is in the eye of the beholder"....

Somehow we need to call things something...and in the inverse,,be called something..but often in the impulsiveness of this need we define things wrongly.

I don't know if you suffer with BPD but I did note one aspect of your description. No one mentioned adandonment. Without the pervasive all consuming fear of abandonment which is the cortex of all exhibited fears in the disorder, BPD would seem an unlikely diagnosis...

Please make yourself a spectacular day,,,because you are spectacular person....

Lenny