Thanks Lenny,
Abandonment is a difficult thing for me really to grasp. I certainly fear rejection, and although it's related to abandonment I'm sure, it's not quite one and the same thing. I would say my greatest fear is failure, not abandonment.
At the moment my bf is away (on the other side of the globe) - he has had to stay away a week longer than expected and I'm finding it hard without him (not feeling 'abandoned' as such but a bit lonely) - I suppose I'm just so used to living with him now that it's harder to function without him - it's human to miss someone. Growing up, I was very much alone - I sought safety in my isolation I think - and I am very good at getting 100% absorbed into a task. It's easy to grow accustomed to company though
- I'm happy I share my life with someone. He's good at giving me a reality check - distracting me from going too deep into my own thoughts - I hope I am something like that for him too.
Anyway, I wanted to thank you for your kind words - it felt good reading them.
Onzi
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Originally Posted by Lenny
Hi Onzich and welcome to PC....
Its funny about labels and definitions especially about souls as dynamic as people,,,they seem to follow the old adage,,"beauty is in the eye of the beholder".... 
Somehow we need to call things something...and in the inverse,,be called something..but often in the impulsiveness of this need we define things wrongly.
I don't know if you suffer with BPD but I did note one aspect of your description. No one mentioned adandonment. Without the pervasive all consuming fear of abandonment which is the cortex of all exhibited fears in the disorder, BPD would seem an unlikely diagnosis...
Please make yourself a spectacular day,,,because you are spectacular person....
Lenny |