I am sorry that you are having such erratic feelings flowing in you.... I personally feel that these feelings you have been dealing with over the last few years are emotional based and that seeing a T could help you peal a part the past so you can look at each individual wound and heal from them so they no longer control you in the present.

I would start with talking about the absence of your father and how desperately wanting a male figure to love you and to love in return has resulted in you having past feelings for another male - your ideal father figure, the man that could give you what your mother & father couldn't.

Then I would talk about how your anger and resentment toward your mother is disrupting your present attempts to have a normal relationship with females today.

Good Luck... and know that I am hear to listen if you need a friend.

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and NO - as a person that has DID - I do not feel that you have it, but you are emotional scared and wounded from your past.