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I have work (SIC) from the premise that some members (people in general?) never get any constructive feedback IRL and are 1) shocked when they receive it here and 2) don't know it's constructive when it happens here and 3) just don't know how to deal with it. Add to that how we are "fragile" so often when we come here for support, that some days ANY thing will set us off.
Threads like these need to happen... no "fault" just a reminder to us all. Don't feel guilty, don't be upset. Read it, take what you can from it, and move on.

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I think the entire thought is important enough to repeat because it includes REASONS why we get our feathers fluffed! LOL ...

The vast majority of the members here don't post to get anyone riled up or to insult them or in any way want to make another member worse. The word SM used is "intention." What a great word - what a great idea! Dr Wayne Dyer just produced a whole series of 4 hours on intention. We're not beating a dead horse... threads like these (with everyone's answers) are part of the way this site stays so safe... we share, we intend, and we understand.

Each of us needs to realize when it's us who feels we are being trampled on, especially if some mods PM us about our behavior, then it isn't the whole site... it might not be other members... it might very well be the place we are in at the time.

Part of relearning "social skills" come from these very type interractions: misunderstanding, acting out, reevaluating, changing, understanding. Many of us never developed such skills because of our home environment. Some of us lost them due to trauma along the way.

It's ok. It's a necessary evil to get through these exchanges.
It takes 2 or more to fight... this isn't a fight... (for those who shy away from any friction.)

I, personally, don't "hate" anyone...and doubt that the majority of members here hate other members. It IS a big family, and we are learning/relearning just how to live with each other.

It's a process... it's a journey... not a destination.

Be well, be safe.