He has told me that he thinks he has ADD, but has never been diagnosed. I found out recently I have OCD, and when we discussed it he mentioned that he thinks he has a lot of OC traits too.

We talk A LOT about mental issues, because I have plenty. He doesn't seem depressed to me, or overly anxious. He yells on occasion but doesn't have a terrible temper.

He is very positive, very upbeat, very social.

I don't know He claims before I moved in (seven months ago) that the place was "immaculate", and that his son also cleaned up after himself, but "fell back into old ways" after they took a trip to Mexico and used the living room to organize and pack for the trip. Once they got back, he claims, his son started in with the slobbiness. Early in our relationship the place was clean (his older son was staying at his mother's more frequently then and his younger one was with his parents for a few weeks).

How can someone just stop caring like that? I really don't think he is depressed, and he is a busy man but he always finds time to socialize and play video games!

I feel like a nag, and I hate it!