Oh, he's not blaming me for the mess He knows that I am very neat and always clean up after myself immediately after making a 'mess' (I put that in quotes because I don't actually make messes - I am referring to the fact that I wash my dishes right after putting them in the sink, make the bed every morning when we get up, never leave dirty laundry on the floor but rather put it in my laundry bag right after I change my clothes, etc.). He told me that because I wondered if he had always lived like that, and if his older son had ALWAYS been so inconsiderate and messy, or if it was a new thing. I was convinced for a few months that the two of them were letting the place go because they saw me as the new "maid", or that maybe his older son had a problem with me and was "acting out". My boyfriend assured me that neither of those things were true, and I believe him.

I'm really thinking my only choice is to move out other than this we do have a good relationship, though lately we argue about the mess all the time! Maybe I'm extra-intolerant because of my OCD... at any rate, I'm feeling miserable.