I read or was told "depression is anger turned inwards". For me thats how I react so your post really touches me, I know it's not the best choice but lately thats were I am. Growing up I was never allowed to be angry, that wasn't safe. The models I had weren't the best at showing me healthy ways to express my anger. After reading the other posts I agree that understanding anger is a big part of it. I admit I have anger issues too, and I struggle with how to cope. The suggestion about pounding pillows reminded me of a type of therapy called Gestalt therapy I have done. My understanding of Gestalt was to physically release the emotion in a safe way. We were encouraged to pound pillows (being careful not to hurt self or others), we were asked to scream or cry in a safe setting to "release" our emotion. Gestalt felt like a redirection and release of anger in a safe manner. I also cope with anger by working out, I like to lift weights and ride my bikes. Great idea to discuss anger, great thread