Hi Ciefish!
It sounds like your life is really in a difficult phase right now. I too am bipolar, and Dx w/ BPD. I'm working on it & it's a lot for me to handle, plus you're handling a demanding relationship? Whew! Not easy on you. The DBT skills have helped me tremendously. I hope to meet you in chats or you can PM anytime. Welcome to PC.
All the Best,
Holmes