Dear nightdream, I know how much those sorts of abusive words can hurt, from someone who "should" care about us, even when at least part of us knows them to be untrue. He might be talking about himself. He is certainly talking about his own insecurities. Please try not to internalise his abuse. I know how hard that is but with your insight I know you will get through this. You are wonderful, special and caring..... and an awesome mother..... NOT what *he* thinks/says.

Love,
Fuzzy