If I were your wife, I would feel pretty neglected and "second class citizen" being married to a guy who said his work was his life. I would be thinking, "where am I in all of this? Am I not his life too?" I would also feel deprived because my H wouldn't go on vacation with me. Does your wife go on vacation by herself or with friends or family? I hope she gets some time off even if you won't take it. She may need it for her mental health. Not everyone is happy being a workaholic. In the waning years of my marriage, I began taking separate vacations from my H. I would go off to visit friends in other parts of the country and have a great time. It was wonderful being away from him and having fun. Sometimes I did feel like, "hey, he should be here with me, don't most "normal" couples enjoy vacations together?" but I'd shrug it off. It can get lonely in a marriage sometimes.

Anyway, I think I'm trying to say, Brian, beware. This may be causing or contributing to problems in your marriage, problems that may not be discernible yet.