Here's my preliminary pro/con list....

The Good

Keeps a clean house and handles the majority of the household chores.
Tells me he loves me and that I'm beautiful (even though I'm overweight).
Gives great back scratches.
Helps with our daughter.
Contributes financially to the house.
Has a wonderful son that I love dearly.

The Bad

Is verbally abusive to me and our daughter.
Is emotionally abusive and controlling over what goes on in our home.
Does not allow me to have family/friends over.
Tries to restrict our daughter from 'being a kid'.
Insults my family, friends, self.
Makes disgusting sexual comments, especially when drinking
Is self-centered, does not participate in family activities unless there's 'something in it for him'.
Lashes out and argues, in front of our daughter.
Has OCD and high anxiety due to lack of control, possibly bipolar.
Seems miserable and angry often.
Speaks v-e-r-y, v-e-r-y, s-l-o-w-l-y - and we are not on the same page intellectually, so stimulating conversation is lacking.