Hi sadnessrose. I suggest you read the book Stupid About Men: 10 Rules for Getting Romance Right by Deborah Dunn. She is a marriage and family therapist and the book talks about how we look for our prince charming due to all the fairy tales we grew up to. It will explain why you look for these characteristics in men and what to do about it. I have depression and low self esteem issues as well. I do know something and if I could follow my own advice I would be great, but you need to be able to believe in yourself to attract the right man. You have to realize that a man is just a man. They do not make us who we are. They are just someone to share things with and to be there when we need someone. They do not define us as a person. Only you can define yourself. Until you realize that, you will always be on the search for that someone to sweep you off your feet and rescue you. Change your attitude now and things will work out for themselves. I am 41 and still have the syndrom you speak of. If you dont change it now you will always be searching.