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Originally Posted by SophiaG
I dated a guy who had Aspergers for a while.
During the time I dated him (which wasnt too terribly long) I learned several things:
1) He had been sexually abused
2.) He was suicidal
3.) he claimed to be a sex addict
4.) He completely and utterly disregarded ALL my feelings
5.)He had Aspergers
During the Course of this relationship he:
1.) Overdosed twice
2.) cut himself several times even when I was RIGHT there with him
3.) made fun of my physical disablity (which was why I broke up with him)
4.)Cheated on me
5.) Didnt want me to talk to anyone but him
Another person who I've met recently claims to have Aspergers and they:
1.) are a compulsive liar
2.) disregard my feelings
Needless to say I didnt stick around to find out more.
is this normal behavior for an Aspie? Right now I dont particularly like them much.
And I cant believe I put up with that much from that one guy xD
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Its seems that you have had a terrible experience with someone who just happens to have Aspergers. I am sorry for your experience but what l am not sorry for is to say out loud that l know many many people who suffer from Aspergers with varying degrees but what l do know is that everyone is very different and each individual is unique. I have not encoutered them as compulsive liars................in fact the total opposite of that very very honest. As for feelings a complete disregard for all feelings sorry no l cant agree with that either may troubles expressing what they feel.
What saddens me most about this post is that you were obviously very hurt and mistreated by this man and because of that you have judged all who suffer with Aspergers as the same.................. are we not more than a diagnosis .................... do we not fight to remove that people only see a diagnosis and not the person who is there inside hurting, confused and in pain. Because your experience was bad l am sorry for you as no one deserves that but we all of us have personalities that also play a big big role in the way we think, behave and act. but that doesnt make all people with Aspergers as you have desrcibed them in the above post.
Mandy
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