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Originally Posted by daynnight
"Persons with Asperger's are more different amongst themselves than persons not having Asperger's" said by my special therapist - who quoted a known statement.
This is actually why it is so hard to diagnose someone with AS - we are all so different from one another. But still there are of course things we do have in common but they can manifest in many different ways.
To diagnose an adult who has been formed by life more than a child has been, is even harder.
These are a few things I know about myself concerning the first post in this thread:
*I'm "too" honest. I can't lie because it would devastate me.
*When it comes to showing empathy... I tend to take the worries of the whole world upon my shoulder. 
*I would NEVER make fun of someone physically disabled
*When it comes to sexual intimacy... Physical touching is a challenge of its own... not easy at all. Takes a lot of trust... the right moment... the right type of touch... the surrounding environment has to be right...
*It's one of the things I live for - listening to others and trying to support them the best I can.
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When it comes to my son... we have a lot in common but we're also a lot different...
*He has a hard time showing empathy if he's in a bad frame of mind himself. He has the "emotional eyes" to see and support his close friends but maybe not always in the same way like others would do it. It's much easier to understand if he really sees someone hurting... like maybe having a wound... He's still learning from seeing others and the way they act. He's only 11 years old.
*He can't lie. He tells you something and then he looks at you saying: "I'm only kidding." or "Did you believe in that?"
My son's got a lot of issues that causes grief for us living with him and for others in his life. But one has to remember that like so many others - he's has other diagnosis’s as well - ADHD and possibly Tourettes.
There are 3 "types" of AS... roughly speaking:
1. The social - who wants to be in contact with other people and are doing well when interacting with others.
2. The withdrawn - wants to spend time alone rather than amongst other people.
3. The more noticeable AS - acting in a less common way. Developing his/her own "lifestyle".
But like the members writing before me have said: we all have our own individual personality.
I hope this piece of writing together with the other replies spread some light upon the subject Asperger's and behaviour.
Please let this thread be an informative one to give knowledge about a disorder still pretty "unknown" to most folks.
Peace and harmony to you all
/daynnight
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Wow I didnt know that there were different kinds. I think i've met a social one before on another site n_n. He's nice.
And I am thinking that my ex probably had more than one dx to act as he did. And his personality probably played a factor in what i experienced, Which clears things up somewhat and makes me less confused.
I think part of what I was trying to ask was..." how much of how he behaved was due to his aspergers and how much of it was personality?"
I think I'm beginning to see the difference
thanks daynnight!
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Last edited by SophiaG; Mar 31, 2009 at 06:07 AM.
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