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Originally Posted by unr3achable1tch
Hey there. Im wondering about the same thing. When i was molested by my cousin at 7 yrs of age, i cried n told my mom the next day. It was touching only though.
But till this day i havent been able to tell my family about what my brother did, which was similar to ur situation. In my case, it'd crush my parents. They already have a lotta crap to deal with.
My fiance knows. Ive been having flashbacks after having repressed what happened to my childhood, for a couple of years now. I need help, but cant, cuz then id have to tell my parents.
If ur cousin may be suseptible to molest another child, or ur suspicous, definetly tell ur family. It could bring him down a lil.
The Q is: would u be comfortable knowing ur family knows about it?
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I was only touched too, but it for sure left lasting marks for both of us. Like you, I have a lot of flashbacks, especially now that I'm in a serious relationship, it's very difficult to be intimate without having to get drunk or high first because every touch reminds me of back then.
Why would getting help mean you have to tell your parents? Are you on their insurance plan or something? Either way I would think it remains private...just curious. I have repressed it for 17 years - I'm 23 now, and it has done me no good. Looking back, I know it was the root of my emotional problems back in 04 when I was put in the adolescent psych ward.
My cousin is a few years older than me, but whether or not he would be susceptible to doing this to another child or a grown woman, I do not know. I don't think so, but who knows.
Onto your last question...part of me feels like it would be a huge relief to me to not have to live with this anymore. I feel like I owe my mom an explanation other than "I have depression" (as diagnosed from doctors) to explain why I was the way I was when I was younger...I put her through a lot in 04...but another part of me feels like there is already such a division in my family due to something else, and my mom is already so stressed, that I don't know if it would stress her out more...
I have been thinking of just confronting my cousin though...going to talk to my T about it in a few weeks when I see him to see what should go down.