I think your friends and family that have met him can help you even more than we can. How about if you talk to them -- maybe don't say why you are asking, but maybe say something like "what were the things about my ex that really upset or annoyed you the most". Some reinforcement from the people who didn't love him might be what you need to remind yourself of why you were in the mindset to break up in the first place. Maybe?

Good luck, Lady D - your situation is difficult, I agree. But you're strong... I have a LOT faith in you to make the right choices for yourself and your daughters.

We are ALL going to be a-ok!