Hi sweetie, yep, really big stuff for you right now.......and don't you love it how it all happens at the same time?

Relationships are hard.......but you will find someone who will LOVE you for all your eccentricities.......it took me 10 years and my man now encourages my love and affection for my furry, imaginary canine friend(werewolf, long story, kind of a borderline rage, schizoeffective thing) He embraces ALL of the things that go along with Bipolar dx 2007. Doesn't mean he doesn't get scared or confused but i just have to keep the lines of communication open, take my meds and see my shrinks. He has had to also overcome a lot of preconceived misconceptions about mental illness in general.

The clincher for me is that he bought me this poster size picture of this beautiful werewolf to "keep me company". That was his way of saying "I respect and acknowledge your relationship with this entity" Even if it seems a little nutty. I love it!! My werewolf and i are friends now and acknowledge that it is part of me.

As for the stigma, I have to say Borderline has come a bit of a way since I was dx. I was dx 15 years ago and no-one had really heard of it. There was no such thing as DBT. Therapists did not want to treat BPD patients due the the propensity of violence and i was one of those on a large scale. God was smiling on me that day and i had the best T for 7 years. Man, did she put up with alot and most of our sessions were guarded with a lovely 7 foot nurse with big boots!!

Anyway, you are in a huge transition period........most people go through them in their lifetimes its just that out transitions have a different "patina". So much harder to cope with. You can do it and i hope that things with your partner seek a resolution either way. Good luck......we are here....

In stillness.........