This sounds entirely normal. My wife and I have just adjusted our intimacy accordingly. In fact its a bit of a turn on for us both, for me to engage in afterplay (soft kissing, touching, whispering), as she brings herself to orgasm manually. A COUPLE of times.

I don't know If this is your partner's issue, but I had to overcome a LOT of silly male insecurity before we got to this point. "I'm not enough??" and that sort of thing.

Bollocks. Tell him to put Conway Twittty singing "Slow Hand" on his ipod, and listen to it over and over.

Seconding the motion that a)extended fore and after play are in order and b)penetration from behind should be experimented with.