I am new to this site but it be nice to get some unbiased opinions (seeing as you guys don't know me like my housemates, friends, family, etc.). Anyways to the point:

I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year and a half. I have always trusted him even though his ex-girlfirend is psycho. Over this time I have noticed some flirty texts here and there but mainly I understood it as him being selfish and wanting her to like him and her knowing she can't have him since he loves me. Recently when he was black-out drunk he had sent some innappropriate texts to her and I confronted him. He apologized but knew that wasn't enough. He had been writing a letter to me (Ican post it if people want to analyze it) but mainly it said he truly loved me and I have made him a better person and closer with his family.

BUT he needs to be totally honest with me. About 2 months into the relationship he cheated on me. He has no recolection of it happening because he was black out drunk and didn't even know anything happened until the girl said it happened. So, the question here would be did he or didn't he? Who's to say she's not lying, just trying to mess up his life because of you, and they aren't together, and she wants to be...was there any real proof this even actually happened? How can you forgive something that you're not even sure happened.

He lets me check his texts and facebook if I feel the urge, he deleted her number, his myspace, all connections to her have been cut off. If he's that willing to let you invade such private things, things where most people draw the line, like stay outta my purse, don't look at my phone, etc., I draw the conclusion you have nothing to worry about.

He says he truly loves me and he did cry when he admitted everything. I believe he does and his history with his ex is horrible and I feel bad for those who have been in that situation. I know what it's like to be in that situation, I had a psycho ex and it wasn't pretty, but I knew what was going on and put myself in that situation, and got myself out of it, I don't feel the need for someone to feel sorry for me and really, it should have no bearing on how you feel for him, except maybe he was srtong enough to get out and not let her ruin him.

I'm still with him but sometimes I don't know if it's right. I love him, I thought we would get married - he still hopes to marry me but is it okay to forgive him? You've been together over a year and a half, for over a year he's done nothing wrong, if indeed, again, he ever did really do anything wrong. He loves you, as you say, he let's you into places where most people wouldn't. And it's always ok to forgive, imho it's wrong to not forgive. You don't necessarily have to forget, but over time you kinda will. I forgive any and everyone who has done me harm, on purpose or not.