Coconut,

Thanks for the compliment. I'm glad you like to read my posts.

I wish I would have taken the matter to the elders when it first happened. I really, really wish I had. Now, it has been 6 years, and it feels like too much time has gone by. I don't know if she even still has my writing or if she finally threw it out.

I was just so terribly hurt over her ending the friendship that I didn't think much about my rights. I just felt devastated at the way things ended. I wish now I had had more self-respect and pursued getting it back.

One of the reasons I didn't push the matter was because I feared that if she did return the writings in person or by mail, and my husband got it first, then perhaps he would read some of it and be very hurt at what I'd written. I feel absolutely terrible if that were to happen.