Wow, this is similar to me, I have an older bro that is BP-I, but has been in "remission" (my own defination) for about 30 yrs. on Lithium
I was DXed as BP-II 5 years ago, I felt this DX may be way off, when I was thinking of what I saw, as a little girl growing up with a bro who was BP-I, back then just was called "manic-depression". He would get very violent manias, some started out mild, happy go lucky, then escalated to some really bad scenes
When I was DXed, I was going through some family and marital stuff and still feel my behavoiur mimicked BP, I too are more of a depressive, never what I would consider manic, unless when people finally find happiness they are considered manic. I've resolved myself to the fact, being a genetic thing, I will keep in touch with my pdoc/and maintnance meds. once menopause is over or near it, I'd like to be off meds. but stay in touch with pdoc to be sure I'm alright. Can't help it, but I am curious if my former psychologist's DX of me, influenced my former pdoc's final opinion/DX.
Sorry, I just had to talk to you, found it something that someone has or had a similar feeling about their DX and wow, coincedence (sp?), of a bro with BP-I, and their sister(s) like me, get DXed BP-II (mild).
Thanks for letting me, ramble.

Sincerely,
DE