Thread: does he love me
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Old Apr 05, 2009, 03:58 PM
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It does sound like he might have real, honest feelings for you. But that after a year he only is willing to to spend time with you once a week in the same limited time frame strikes me as a bit "off." It sounds, I'm sorry, like a weekly one night stand. He makes up for it with nice presents and making you breakfast. But not with his time, the most important thing one person can give to another.

I wouldn't worry so much about the words, but the actions. I would be pushing for more time with him, especially after the length of time you have been involved with him. One night once a week is like a sleep over. Breakfast and exspensive gifts are nice, but they don't say "love" like spending time with a person does.

But really you have to decide for yourself what you are happy with, what love is for you and what kind of relationship you want. How long are you willing to keep your relationship at this level? It sounds like you might be feeling the need for more time with him. Like you want to be a more present and real part of his life. And imo, that seems natural given the length of time you've been seeing each other.

Ask him for what you need from him, tell how you feel in a loving, nonthreatening way. Then see how he responds. That should give you some insight and help you find some answers.
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than an "I'll say a prayer" or a "god bless you."
Doesn't make me feel better, no meaning to me for sure.
Can't stop you from praying and blessing me,
and if that makes you feel better feel free.
But keep it to yourself please, don't tell me.
And let's all respect each other's feelings.
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