(((Naomi))) I have the same thing with my sister - she rings and goes through stuff - and it tears me apart - it brings back the fear I felt for her and for me as well (her husband threatened us both) and I listen and I help her while inside I am being torn apart - then she hangs up and I am alone - she is with her family and I am alone - I can understand how you feel.

can you do something for you - somthing comforting - i dont know if its day or night there or hot or cold - cuddle up with a hot water bottle under the covers - play with or cuddle a pet - you deserve to be taken care of and if the only person there is you - then you have to do it - if someone else is there - maybe you can go talk t them and let them know how you are feeling - maybe you can share with your friend how you are feeling - how much it affects you - I couldnt do that with my sister though...

please take care of you