hmmmm...forgive my abusers?????

that is a tough one. politically correct me says..."ah yes, but of course i will."

honest me says.."no i probably will not."

my parents did some horriffic things to me. many times. damned near killed me. many times. did some lasting damage. many times (oops sorry got in a rut there) i'll be struggling for the rest of my life to fix and cope with.

they were adults. yeah obviously damaged sick evil adults...but adults, and they should have known better. granted maybe in some of their twisted logic maybe they were unsure but many of their actions were so far over the cruel edge that there was no doubt.

i will cut my mother a little more slack than my father since she came from an abusive background as well...but still i do in no way condone the acts she did to me or my sister. sometimes you need to stand up and for your children if not yourself. she did neither.

do i hate them? no. because that would give them power still over me. iw ould be tying up my energy and emotion on them, and i choose to use it in a more positive ffashion.

so...while i will not forgive them...i will not let their action go unheard either. i chose to be vocal about the abuse instead. for me forgiveness=tolerance...BUT THAT IS JUST ME and i am pig headed.

personally this is something that each individual has to decide. it is what is right for you and what you can live with and be comfortable with.